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Related Booklists. Bering strips away every assumption and asks about human sexuality, while letting go of all preconceived notions. For me, it reaches the Cartesian destruction of reality. Bering uses wonderful logic what a great skeptic he is! Unlike Descartes, when Bering builds his argument back up, he uses that same skepticism, logic, and empirical evidence used in the most responsible way possible , to attempt to understand who we are as sexual beings.

Importantly, Bering goes fishing for minorities -- those who are attracted to children, to old people, to the Berlin wall, to feet, and so on -- in an attempt to understand if there isn't something different about the brains of people who are in a particular minority.

Even if Bering fails to provide answers he seemed to end up with more questions than answers , he asks extremely important questions. One of the most interesting things in this book was the suggestion that being attracted to children might be a matter of "cross wiring. As someone interested in neuroscience, criminology, policy, and treatment for offenders, this suggestion of cross wiring rocked my world.

I hope this hypothesis will be well studied. If it pans out, maybe for the first time actual, effective treatments can be realized. The cross wiring argument is as follows: - Normal wiring means, when an adult sees a child, they mount a paternal response. Rather, it activates the sexual areas of brain, giving the adult an involuntary response of sexual attraction. If we simply sit back and engage in armchair philosophy, how can we ever do anything but catch someone like that after the damage is done?

The way we see pedophiles now only encourages them to hide what they feel. We won't even know about them until they have hurt a child. Sure, we can punish them after the fact, and maybe keep them from offending again that's a big maybe , but can we do better? Not without allowing ourselves to stop judging long enough to try to understand the issues on a deeper level. Despite my focus on pedophiles in this review, this book is far from simply being about pedophiles.

It is about the sexual nature of every one of us. It is about the stuff we are encouraged to not talk about openly. Bering break through so many barriers, when talking about sexuality, which made this an amazing book. At one point, early on, in addition to including his own personal thoughts and experiences, which I found myself not caring about, Bering discussed Trivers' parental investment hypothesis, and I thought I was going to end up hating the book.

But he did such a great job limiting the discussion of Trivers hypothesis to disgust that, for the first time in decades, I liked what someone did with Trivers work. This book was an excellent academic survey of what we know, and are trying to know, about human sexuality. Bering never gets caught up in so much of the elitist genetic or evolutionary arguments that end up doing more harm that good. This is a book that details the current progress in researching sexuality, in all its facets, and asks important questions we, as a society, need to try to answer in order to come to any type of consensus on what normal sexuality is.

We need to answer these questions not only to inform policy how do we punish sexual crimes; who do we let marry; etc , but also answer within our own selves to even begin to understand ourselves as human beings. Jul 17, Julie G rated it it was ok. Writing I wasn't super impressed with the writing. On the one hand, the author does a great job of citing his sources, which makes me want to give him a standing ovation.

Unfortunately, the quality of the writing just didn't meet those same standards. I thought it was disconnected and didn't flow very well. I would be hard pressed to give a topic sentence or even chapter summary. Entertainment Value Call me close-minded, but I couldn't get past what seemed to be a large quantity of apologia for pe Writing I wasn't super impressed with the writing. Entertainment Value Call me close-minded, but I couldn't get past what seemed to be a large quantity of apologia for pedophilia.

I felt like the author let his desire to banish any arguments against homosexuality he is openly homosexual, as he reminds us continually color his objectivity.

In an attempt to make sure no one can claim homosexuality is deviant, he goes too far in excusing all sexual deviancies, including pedophilia. I just can't get behind that. It really turned me off to the book as a whole. Thank you to NetGalley for providing me with a copy to review.

Sep 25, Denis Ferreli rated it it was amazing. This is an important book on a sensitive subject. I liked how Bering was knowledgable about all sides of the debates but also unrelenting in his search for rational and humane understanding of "deviants" which as he shows is not always an easy to define category when it comes to sex. I thought the writing was brilliant in this book and even bordering on literary in places.

For a science writer he has an unusual rhetorical ability and is a master prose artist. Overall if you're not afraid to go i This is an important book on a sensitive subject. Overall if you're not afraid to go into some dark places, a must read for human nature buffs.

But don't be too put off by that anyway because he manages to keep the tone light and highly readable throughout. The humor is self-effacing, sharp and actually caught me off guard in a number of places! May 21, Kathleen Brugger rated it it was ok. It makes me depressed to see Scientific American published this book. The style was so sleazy—joking and smart-ass—plus the point of view was odd in a number of ways.

Under whose rules? There's no discussion of who made up the rules. Our culture needs to have an adult discussion about our ridiculously Puritan attitudes toward sexuality, but this book will be of very little help in getting it started.

Dec 08, Rachel rated it liked it. I think this review is probably for adults only, due to the nature of the book, so I'm giving it an R rating. The overall premise of the book is that we shouldn't be so judgmental about other people's private sexual peccadilloes, give that they don't affect us directly.

Who cares what consenting adults do in bed, as long as no one is being hurt? Which isn't always true of consenting adults - the author uses the example of a man who wanted to be killed and eaten and found a cannibal fetish guy t I think this review is probably for adults only, due to the nature of the book, so I'm giving it an R rating. Which isn't always true of consenting adults - the author uses the example of a man who wanted to be killed and eaten and found a cannibal fetish guy to do so - both consenting, but clearly murder is not legal.

I agree with the author that it's none of our business what other people get up to and also any of us might be deemed a pervert if our sexual lives were examined closely.

However the author doesn't take into account the handful of people who insist on making their sexual fetishes public knowledge. And if you insist on leading your wife around on a leash or making your husband wait on you hand and foot at the cocktail party, other people will notice and disapprove, because those behaviours are well outside the realm of normal.

But let's say you are entirely private about your perverted sexual life. Sure, it'd be nice if society was less judgmental when such fetishes do emerge into the public sphere, usually without the consent of the person in question. But the examples the author uses are just terrible. Not many people would dare to stick up for pedophiles, although he does correctly point out that they aren't necessarily choosing to be attracted to children.

It is a compulsion. As long as they don't actually harm children, they probably deserve sympathy and treatment rather than hatred and calls for punishment. You can't punish someone for a thought or sexual fantasy. However the author considers purchasing and view child pornography to be a victimless crime. That is ridiculously untrue. Child pornography is documentation of a crime that actually happened. Would he be so quick to defend postcards of lynchings of black people, which were not uncommon well into the 20th century?

After all, postcards aren't lynchings. But they could not exist without the crime itself, and the lynchers profited by selling those postcards. The law recognizes that photographic evidence of a crime being committed can't legally be sold. That is profiting from crime. In the case of child porn, it's remarkably callous of the author to suggest that viewing child porn isn't actually hurting children. Without the lucrative market in child porn which funds many other crimes, including terrorism , there would be far less child rape.

If we only had to deal with the handful of criminally-minded pedophiles, not an international supermarket of child porn, it'd be much easier to stop the abuse of children. The author is no more reasonable about zoophiles, practitioners of bestiality. He uses several flawed logical arguments, the first of which is that we butcher animals and do a lot worse to them than have sex with them.

This is true, but you can't justify wrongdoing by pointing to other wrongdoing. It's like saying "too many bad things are done to animals, why bother stopping any of them? Or maybe he is saying it's unfair to punish zoophiles while we let butchers practice their trade?

But people don't need to have sex with animals to survive. Eating meat is more or less essential. Sure you can get by without meat, but it's been a part of our diet for thousands of years and that is why we have domestic animals. Cows and chickens don't exist in the wild. They were domesticated to provide food.

Hardly the same motivation for wanting to have sex with animals. He also suggests that masturbating a horse is no worse than collecting semen from a stud by electroshocking the prostrate. That sounds quite painful but it's not all that common in the horse world. Very few horses are used for breeding purposes; most male horses are geldings. Even the ones that are used for breeding, it's far more common for breeding to happen in the usual way, or for semen to be collected via other means such as a dummy horse or cow sprayed with hormones.

The electroshock method is used only a small number of high-priced successful racehorse studs. Probably less than are attacked by zoophiles every year. And once again, if electroshocking the prostrate is wrong, that doesn't make masturbating a horse right. It's not a mutually exclusive situation. Both acts can be wrong. Finally, the author points out that we don't know whether or not animals actually enjoy sex with humans and maybe they would give consent if they can speak, after all, if a horse is masturbated to its natural conclusion, surely that means the horse enjoyed it?

And with just a few sentences, the author completely eliminates the very notion that men can be raped. If a man has an erection, he should enjoy sex with whoever happens to come along, male or female, doesn't matter, he has an erection, therefore, he desires sex.

It's like the author completely eliminates the notion of mechanical friction causing a sexual reaction even if it's not wanted. On this episode—. Jesse Bering: I mean I think an important point here is to define pervert and what we mean when we use that term.

Steve Mirsky: And that is scientist and author Jesse Bering. So if you have sensitive sensibilities just, just turn back now. Steve Mirsky: Jesse Bering, when are you going to, when are you going to write a book that I can read on the subway again without having to cover the cover?

Jesse Bering: Yeah. Steve Mirsky: That one never even occurred to me. Jesse Bering: Well that says a lot about you Steve actually. Jesse Bering: Mmmm. But I mean even in reality in terms of our history, historical relations with Neanderthals and interbreeding with other species, that is technically zooaphilia or beastiality.

Maybe not zooaphilia, but it is beastiality in that sense. Jesse Bering: At least they were hominid species. Jesse Bering: Humanoid. Yes, yeah. Steve Mirsky: Yeah, you talk in the book about your own interesting relationship with images of Neanderthals. Jesse Bering: Oh right. My first experience, yes, was with seeing a nude Neanderthal male that was quite attractive, physically, except for the face really.

But in terms of musculature and body morphology it was very human like, and it was arousing to me as a young boy. Steve Mirsky: Now one of the interesting things about this very interesting book is —. Steve Mirsky: Right. Jesse Bering: I did, yeah. It was very homo erotic. There were lots of things in there that really struck a chord with me as an adolescent. Steve Mirsky: The book discusses —. Steve Mirsky: Oh yeah. Jesse Bering: Well there are cross, major cross cultural differences in terms of sexual deviance and what is considered to be inappropriate or harmful, or offensive, and it does raise a lot of deep meaningful philosophical questions in terms of human sexuality.

If one culture sees something as entirely harmless or normative and another sees it as criminal and antisocial, which society is correct in that sense? Is there an objective criterion for determining what is okay and what is not okay in terms of human sexuality? It raises all sorts of interesting questions philosophically to me in terms of human morality. Steve Mirsky: And the moral question now that I think most people who would consider themselves to be very open minded would be is anybody getting hurt?

Jesse Bering: Exactly. If an incredibly beautiful woman came and gave a lap dance to me right now I would probably be traumatized in many ways, but I know that you might not be.

Jesse Bering: Kate Upton, yes, because I would imagine most heterosexual males find her incredibly sexually attractive. Steve Mirsky: And ironically you know her uncle is a very conservative Republican congressman. Steve Mirsky: And yet there would seem to be a moral imperative to protect certain individuals from harm who are not in a position to protect themselves.

Jesse Bering: The most vulnerable members of society, obviously. So I suppose if I had to put a label on it I would be considered a sexual libertarian in the sense that human sexuality is the business of the individuals involved in the act. And, but we do have a, we do have a moral mission basically to protect people that maybe misjudge their own intentions or what is consensual to them at the time, and then sort of regretting that later.

So, and I completely appreciate the fact that these are really complicated issues. But —. Schlessinger on the radio got involved with, that study. Jesse Bering: Right so. Right, so there were, this was a study that came out in the late s by Bruce Rhind, who is a psychologist who labels himself an expert in intergenerational sexuality.

Steve Mirsky: George Clooney and anyone. Jesse Bering: Yeah, exactly. Yeah, something like that. But also I mean in terms of the more sort of delicatory pedophilia sort of an extreme example. A pervert, through and through. Whether it's voyeurism, exhibitionism, or your run-of-the-mill foot fetish, we all possess a suite of sexual tastes as unique as our fingerprints—and as secret as the rest of the skeletons we've hidden in our closets.

Combining cutting-edge studies and critiques of landmark research and conclusions drawn by Sigmund Freud, Alfred Kinsey, and the DSM-5 , Bering pulls the curtain back on paraphilias, arguing that sexual deviance is commonplace. He explores the countless fetishists of the world, including people who wear a respectable suit during the day and handcuff a willing sexual partner at night. But he also takes us into the lives of "erotic outliers," such as a woman who falls madly in love with the Eiffel Tower; a pair of deeply affectionate identical twins; those with a particular penchant for statues; and others who are enamored of crevices not found on the human body.

Moving from science to politics, psychology, history, and his own reflections on growing up gay in America, Bering confronts hypocrisy, prejudice, and harm as they relate to sexuality on a global scale. Humanizing so-called deviants while at the same time asking serious questions about the differences between thought and action, he presents us with a challenge: to understand that our best hope of solving some of the most troubling problems of our age hinges entirely on the amoral study of sex.

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